60

Sixty Trips Around the Sun:
Notes From A Life Well Lived.

I showed up in 1966, the Sound of Silence by Simon & Garfunkel was number one the day I was born in the year of the Horse and the moon landing was on the horizon. Childhood was Sesame Street, school lunches, and learning how the world worked, vinyl spinning in the background.
’76 to ’86 was adolescence: Aqua Net bangs, Swisher Sweets, Miller Ki11ers, and the Rumors album became my soundtrack. Walkmans and MTV changing music forever. Prince and Glam/Hair Metal ruled the radio while I learned that growing up means experimenting, messing up, and somehow still making it home by curfew(most of the time!).
From ’86 to ’96, college faded in the rearview and Chicago became home. I followed the Dead and found U2. I taught kindergarten by day, cocktail waitressed by night, met a guy, got married, and welcomed my first baby as the world shifted from landlines to dial-up.
’96 to ’06 was all babies, teaching, minivans, and birthday parties, with Barney and Disney tunes as the soundtrack of family life. Love multiplied even when energy(and coffee) didn’t.
’06 to ’16 was a decade of becoming. The housing bubble burst, iPhones arrived, Gaga pushed the edges, Adele nailed heartbreak, and I quietly dismantled then began to rebuild a life. Freedom took time, strength, and came with new adventures
’16 to ’26 has been all about reinvention. New jobs, new keys, new losses, new joys. I buried both parents, said goodbye to friends, advocated for causes I care about, Everybody suddenly had eras, playlists replaced CDs, and I kept showing up for the music — back to live music, Dead shows, Stevie Nicks, and connecting at concerts with my kids. All while I began to figure out who I am on my own.
If there’s one lesson after 60 years, it’s this: every decade has its own rhythm. The music shifts and the beat changes, but the soundtrack connects it all. It’s the thing that bridges eras and generations, stitching the story together while the world keeps moving forward. Freedom takes courage, joy takes intention, and peace is worth protecting.
Here’s to 60 years behind me—it’s been a long strange trip. “Time makes you bolder… and I’m gettin’ older too.” The music keeps evolving, and so do I. Here’s to all the wild, beautiful, ordinary, extraordinary days ahead. 

Receiver

Today started out as a day of giving and turned into a day of receiving.
I dropped my son at work, got a snack and headed to Evanston hospital to donate blood. There was an urgent need for the victims of the Highland Park tragedy so I signed up. Giving blood is how I help when I feel helpless.
I chose to take the advice of my friend Julie and wear my Free Mom Hugs shirt. Entering the hospital, I got a few looks from people.
Soon I was seated in the donation chair and one of the phlebotomists said, “I like your shirt!”
“Thanks!  Need a hug?”
“Really?” I nod.
“Sure…” She says.
So before I get hooked up to all the machines, I give her a big hug. She smiles and says thanks. 
As she is removing needle, one of the other women says, “11:11!  Make a wish!  That was your official finish time!” I laugh and she then pulls out the pink bandage…it was like they knew me! 
We 3 chatted while I recovered and then I left.
I walked toward the exit and an elderly man said, “Really? Hugs?”
“Yup!  Want one?”
“Well I guess so….” And we did sort of side hug as that was what he could manage with his cane.
“That was really nice. Thank you.” And he shuffled away.
Once I left the hospital I was feeling all sorts of things. So, I decided to take a drive. I found myself driving around the Northwestern Campus. As an homage to my old man, I clicked on my old school Spotify playlist and the soothing sounds of Billie Holiday filled the air.
I gazed you the window at the old and new buildings. So much has changed over the years. I wound up in the older part of Evanston and grabbed a coffee. I treated myself to a fancy lavender latte (at the suggestion of the barista).
“Do you really give hugs?”
“Yes!  I love it!”
She took my payment and directed me to coffee pick up. While I was waiting, she walked around the counter and, “Can I have a hug?”
“SURE!” and we hugged in a café full of people.
She said thanks and went back to work, handing me my coffee. I got back in my car and headed home….the long way….along Sheridan Road, past the Baha’i Temple, Lake Michigan and beautiful homes all the while listening to old jazz and my girl Billie filling up my heart.
Today was a reminder of my many gifts. A reminder of my blessings. A reminder of times gone by. I keep hoping that my daily excursions…. giving some hugs, spreading a little kindness and putting some love back into the universe…. create a little more peace for others. It certainly soothes my soul and replenishes my spirit.
Peace.
#tutulady
#forwardisapace

Music

Day 20 of 30
Music
Music speaks to the deepest part of my soul. My musical taste is so diverse, ranging from old school jazz to hip hop to country and everything in between. Vinyl LPs are still my go to when I want to kick it old school and listen with my heart.
Peace
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#forwardisapace

Music

I have been thinking a great deal about music lately. The oldies, the new stuff, the classics….all of it. I have heard many artists say that they could not focus at the beginning of the pandemic but now many are coming out with new content that is critically acclaimed.
Music has helped me feel all the feels during this time. What music/song has really moved you? What are you listening to now that is helping you move forward?
You can see what I am listening to by clicking on the Spotify link either at the top or bottom of the homepage!
Peace.
#tutulady
#forwardisapace